Being a Supermom is easy....

I've decided that you only need ONE key ingredient to being Supermom. (Yes, I know, in all of my 6 whole months of experience I've deemed myself an expert...typical). The only thing you need is: Confidence.

I survived the pregnancy, the natural birth, the infancy and no sleep, and Triston is now considered a 'baby'...Big boy! But through each step I've learned that any time I was insecure, scared or upset, it was due to lack of confidence. Afterall, I'd never done this before and was getting to know my son and his personality and needs. I'd be going along fine and dandy until someone would make a comment like, "Oh, we never did that with our son, how's it going?" or, "Well, he needs to be getting X amount of sleep, and X amount of breastmilk and X amount of playtime..." (Please don't misunderstand me here. I think all the literature, doctors, friends and family are helpful and a great resource for us to figure out how to maneuver our way around this whole motherhood thing, but sometimes it's all just too much). And all of the sudden confidence and practicality was thrown to the wind and my mind was stolen by thoughts of doubt. "Well if she didn't do it that way, maybe I'm screwing him up. Maybe what I thought was the best really isn't and now I've failed him in just two short months of life...dangit...maybe I shouldn't have become a mother in the first place....(and the list goes on and on)." My MOST sleepless nights thus far weren't due to a crying infant, they were due to worry and over-thinking.

Truth is, I DON'T know how to do it RIGHT. I know how to do it MY way because after spending day-in and day-out with my son, I know him BEST. And to be completely honest, even when I don't know what I'm doing I just pretend I do...because it's a journey. I'm learning everyday how to be a better mother to Triston and he's learning everyday how to respond to his mother. We're dance partners makin' our way through this crazy life and I'm leading the way.

The day I found out that you shouldn't re-freeze breastmilk after it's been thawed out I felt like an idiot. My poor son had been drinking it with no complaints so I figured all was well. When my pediatrician informed me that that wasn't such a good idea, I immediately tried to count how many bottles I'd given him with improper milk. I was up all night. Insecurity and doubt; they will get ya every time.

So, my post today is dedicate to all you moms out there who are wallowing in worry/fear that you are doing something wrong. Well, I say (as a professional, ha), believe in yourself. If you are doing something 'wrong' you will figure it out eventually and make adjustments. But for now, for today, take a deep breath, push your thoughts aside and tell yourself (and believe it) that you are rockin it! Have some confidence moving forward. There are plenty of other things to worry about than racking your brain on how to love your kid better! Because, based on the simple fact that you are already worrying, means you care deeply about your kiddos' well being and future. And that's a perfect love. And that makes you a Supermom in my book. Just take the lead and keep on dancing!

There you have it. It's easy right?! :)....I may come back to this post in a year or two and laugh my head off because I've no idea what lies ahead. But for now, for today, I'm going to believe I'm a Supermom and move forward in confidence! Join me...